Q: What is it like to coach with you?
A: One-on-one coaching with a coach is a unique experience. It’s a potent cocktail of high-quality attention, fierce truth-telling and unwavering commitment to your true desires. I am trained in a variety of modalities, including OneTaste Philosophy, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, universal spiritual principles, and applied teachings from masters in business, inter-personal communication, personal development, transformation, philosophy, spiritual disciplines and traditions, as well as my own experiences. I have over 15 years of experience in training, development and communication with industries that are top in their industries. My offerings are on a personal, professional and private level. What I offer is deeply catalyzing and effective.
By putting deliberate, quality attention on the malnourished parts of ourselves, I have found my clients discover a wellspring inside themselves. A source that hydrates even the most dry and brittle relationships; one that opens channels to love, purpose and fulfillment where we had previously given up hope.
Q: What is desire coaching?
A: Desire based coaching focuses on “what do you want?” instead of what you think you can’t have. So many people move through life saying “i can’t” because they are afraid. Desire coaching moves through the fear and helps you operate from “I can”. Desire Coaching is about putting your oxygen mask on first. It is tapping into what you want and by doing so, being of greater service to others. Through this coaching, we acknowledge everything that we don’t want to face or deal with and then transform those fears into power. We excavate what is really blocking you from having what you want and make a plan to go after that desire. To live from a genuine place of desire, rather than fear.
Q: What do you mean by “putting your oxygen mask on first”?
A: If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of others. Like in a plane, they say “put your own mask on first and then assist the person next to you”. This is so you don’t pass out while helping others. Many people, especially moms I have noticed, put all their energy out onto others until they just collapse into resentment and misery and then they are afraid to admit that they have needs too. Or they do and comes out angry, whiny and too late. Putting your mask on first means taking care of yourself. That it is ok to take care of yourself, and actually benefits others. Self care is vital to you being able to function and if you choose, then help and support others. We have this idea that allowing ourselves pleasure is somehow wrong or selfish and yet, think of a time when you felt happy, how much more are you able to give back to the world when you are at your best? vs being depleted, bitter and exhausted.
Q: What do you charge for your one-on-one coaching?
A: One Million Dollars
Actually, we do not discuss fees until we meet in the Discovery Session and you have a better understanding of the work, the value it would bring to your life, and what that would make possible for you. If you think about it, if I said $30 an hour or $3,000 an hour, there would be no context for the number until you understood the value it would bring to your life. So we do not discuss fees before that would be appropriate.
Q: What would the process look like to hire you?
A: We would have an initial conversation on the phone to make sure there is good fit for us to work together. If, after that call that seems to be the case, then we schedule a longer, complimentary Discovery Session. In that session we go into greater detail about what you want to achieve or resolve. Then we talk about my approach and how it can assist you in your outcomes. At that point, we review an agreement and choose to work together — or choose not to — to see if we are a good fit for one another. We measure a “good fit” to be whether your outcomes are well served by my approach.Then we discuss fees–which are actually quite reasonable, or so my clients tell me.
Q: Are you a licensed therapist? Is it like therapy?
A: No. I am not a licensed state mental health professional and I do not provide psychotherapy, counseling, or any other mental health services that would require a license, nor do I hire myself out to provide such services. I provide educational services that often result in substantial learning and transformation.
Q: I am already working with a therapist, is it okay to work with you at the same time?
A: YES! Working with both a therapist and a coach simultaneously can be an amazing and life-changing experience. One simple way to describe having them both is: In therapy, the client looks at every part of themselves that shaped them into the person they are at this moment in time. In coaching, the client looks at who they are in this moment and who they want to show up as in the future, and then what it will take to become that “future self”. Having both a therapist and a coach can be very complementary, as knowing how you came to be where you are will often help you become the person you want to be!
Q: How is coaching different than a weekend workshop, retreat or other immersive experience?
A: Immersions do amazing things and you can have significant breakthroughs during those experiences. However, after the immersion, often those insights fade and those breakthroughs lack purchase. Coaching helps you to integrate those breakthroughs into your life so the peak experiences you had can become permanent ways of being in your life. It is about change with more sustain.
Q: Do you offer programs that are less than 3 and 6 months?
A: No, I do not. If you think about it, 12 hours (12 sessions – 1 session a week for 3 months) or 24 hours (24 sessions – 1 session a week for 6 months) is very little time – regardless of how it is spread out, to take you to a whole new level in your life. It also allows us to relax into the process, build one phase on the previous, and so on. My coaching packages build in stages of sensation and content over time – very intentionally designed stages that, were we to try and shortcut the process, would undermine the purpose and potency of the coaching you paid for.
I have tried with shorter durations, and found that – without exception – the clients were unable to integrate – and therefore have the change with sustain – we talked about above. Therefore, it ultimately does not serve the client. And we come from a place of what would best serve you. AND all of those questions are thoroughly addressed in the Discovery Session.
The In’s and Out’s of the Coaching Experience…
Q: Do we meet in person or on the phone?
A: While it is ultimately up to you to decide, most one on one coaching is done either in person or on video chat. I serve you best when I have as much information as possible about your current state of being. In person, and on video chat, information like facial expression, eye movement, and hand gestures are available to help me serve you. Coaching and check ins over the phone can be done on an as-needed basis.
Q: What happens if I have to miss a session?
A: Because your coaching agreement is based on time and not the number of sessions, there is no “penalty” for being late or missing a session. We encourage you to reschedule the session, to receive the most benefit from the coaching. Of course, your overall coaching experience will be negatively impacted if you are repeatedly late or miss multiple sessions without rescheduling.
Q: How long is a coaching session?
A: Coaching sessions last, on average, about an hour. However, this is not a strict rule, and we decide together if you would benefit from having shorter or longer sessions.
Q: How often do we have them?
A: On average, you will meet with me for one, one-hour session per week. We can establish an electronic means of communication for between sessions, which is most often text, and less often email and or phone check-ins.
Ultimately, we will design your coaching experience and relationship together, to ensure that you are best served by the time we have together.